Getting-Ready-to-Get-Ready Syndrome

Getting-Ready-to-Get-Ready Syndrome

The symptoms of Getting-Ready-to-Get-Ready syndrome include feeling like you can’t possibly move forward until you lose ten pounds, get a degree, receive permission, know the right people, have enough money, get more experience, pay your dues, or obtain the right equipment.

The trick to defeating Getting-Ready-to-Get-Ready syndrome is doing fifteen minutes of research. (And yes, this can be one of your fifteen-minute daily tasks.)

If you assume that you need to do something before you can do the thing you really want to do, please check that assumption — especially if the source of your information is your own mind. Google it, ask around, and, most important, ask someone who’s already done the thing you really want to do.

Chances are good that you’re over-complicating things.

There was the photographer who was convinced she couldn’t market herself until she had digitally optimized all her photos for her website, which would have meant weeks if not months of painstaking work. I asked her if she had one photo that she thought of as iconic, and when she said yes, I urged her to place just that one on her site. She was up and running twenty minutes later.

Lara was a highly intuitive performer who was feeling a pull toward embarking on a second career as a life coach, but she was feeling discouraged by the two years and several thousand dollars that certification would take.

Now, I admire and respect the people who’ve gone through coach certification, but it is not a prerequisite to being of great service to people.

When I pointed out that she already knew enough to at least get started with a few clients, she brightened right up.

Last I heard, she was running high-end retreats once a month in Beverly Hills — further proof that if you can deliver outstanding results, nobody really cares about your credentials.

And finally, there are the countless men and women who’ve told me that they can’t possibly get started on X, Y, or Z until they lose weight.

Honey, your destiny doesn’t care how much you weigh.

You can find a lover, sell your art, star in your show, and earn your fortune with the body you have right now. And it’s entirely possible that you will become so busy and happy working on your project that your body will self-adjust and become closer to your version of perfect.

After all, there’s nothing like joy to create health.

To Begin And To Begin Again

Starting over can be so dispiriting, you know?

Even just the phrase, “starting over” implies that one is going back to the beginning. And from kindergarten on up, we are taught that having to go back to the beginning is not a good sign.

And worse, it sounds boring. It sounds like now we’re stuck having to go back and do the same dumb things that didn’t even work the first time.

This is no way to appeal to the bright, creative, industrious person that you are.

So let’s rephrase:

“I’m starting a whole new thing!”

“First I was planting and watering, now I’m pruning and harvesting.”

“First I was doing somersaults on the floor, then on the balance beam, now I’m doing them mid-air on the uneven bars.”

“Same problem: different outfit!”

“My life is a gyre – I move in ever-widening circles, gaining altitude each time.”

When you need to begin again, make sure you can do so with the fresh, open joy of a true new beginning.