We hear this story all the time:
“I tried everything! And then finally…”
Finally, the solution is found.
Finally, the right diet and exercise plan kicks in.
Finally, your perfect partner arrives in your life.
Finally, the gate that seemed locked is opened.
And maybe part of us thinks,
“Jeez, if only I’d tried this sooner…”
But to me, the important part of the story is the first part:
I Tried Everything.
Yes, you did. You tried things and you kept trying and you kept showing up and you persisted even when you were so discouraged you couldn’t even think straight. That’s how a person gets to the “finally” part. By staying on the path and putting one foot in front of the other.
That’s faith in action.
And for those of you who haven’t gotten to the “finally” part of the story – oh, honey – I feel your pain.
Especially when everyone around you has such helpful suggestions. Suggestions like, “Oh, when you stop trying – that’s when it will happen!” Really? Or, “You should try this thing that worked for me/my sister/my neighbor’s best friend in Ohio.” Really?
And maybe you’re even thinking about giving up. And maybe you should.
Here’s one way to get a reading on whether or not you should just give up: make a picture in your mind of you just setting down this burden. Imagine you just taking the whole heavy load and setting it down right there on the side of the road. Imagine taking a few steps down the road away from it.
How do you feel? Relieved?
Then maybe, sweetheart, it’s time to set it down for now – not necessarily for always, but for now.
Or do you feel that welling up of spirit (your parents might have called it “stubbornness”) that says, “I WILL find a way!” If that’s so, then all righty. Pick your bundle up and walk on. And keep trying everything – even crazy things, even the thing that worked for that person in Ohio.
And someday – I guarantee it – you will be able to tell the story of your journey and say, “Well, I tried everything, and then finally…”
So tell me – what circumstance in your life had you trying everything? And what finally worked? Or are you still in it? What have you tried? What are you thinking of doing next?
Wow, I couldn’t have said it better myself! I am going to recommend this to my readers. I did do everything to meet my life partner- then I gave in to the universe and said- when it happens,it will happen. I didn’t sit back and do nothing- I was committed to doing things I love- and low and behold my husband showed up!
Then, when we wanted to have a child- I spent five years in fertility clinics. I was about to give up. My last attempt was a success! We tweaked the process. Now I am a mother of a beautiful baby boy.
So hold on to your dream and live your life to the fullest. If it is meant to be, it will happen. I believe perserverence pays off! – Coach Amy
http://www.motivatedtomarryblog.com
SO ready for my “finally”!
I kept learning everything I could at getting healthy and becoming the partner I wanted and needed to be, healing much, to attract into my life the life partner who would bring the most magic and wonder into my life. I knew I was becoming a wonderous and fabulous person with much to offer, and I wanted all that in return. And finally it happened, I reunited with a dear friend who had been in a relationship the day we met. As we developed a friendship, I grew to love him as the person he was, a brilliant writer, artist, chicken farmer and political activist. A recluse as well, looking for love as well, keeping his heart and his options open. Now we revel in the acknowledgement of our love and devotion for one another. The aspect of respect is higher than any I’ve ever known. And in this, I had an opportunity to heal old hurts within the parameters of our relationship. As he needs much time alone to write and tend to all his other responsibilities, I was disappointed to find that he cancelled a scheduled visit and explained that he ‘would not be drawn away from his Art’. (I’m a single mom with 2 teenagers, fiercely independent and busy working full time as well.)In my absolute commitment to support him in who he is, who is whom I love, I had to master my knee-jerk reaction. Once I felt and recognized the pain for what it was, I took myself on a hike into the forest where I listened to my heart and truly performed my own personal spiritual healing within myself. I focused on the truth of what this man and I share, and claimed it, and let go of it all at the same time, and centered myself in the beauty and fullness of all that life has to offer. I became whole and centered again. I have never before felt so free to be myself in all that I am, and to be able to balance that with the power to have full command of my own mental, emotional and spiritual well being. In the past I always looked to the man to take care of these aspects of myself for me. How powerful and complete I now feel in knowing that all this work created an empowerment in me I didn’t even know was possible. Thank you for the opportunity to share this incredible experience!