In Praise Of The Over-Sensitive

In Praise Of The Over-Sensitive

And as you stand there

Your eyes brimming with tears because you just saw

That commercial

And you are wondering why you even try to maintain your composure when

Everything you feel shows on your face

And your heart is permanently attached to

Your sleeve

 

Let us now praise you.

 

You, as innocent as that tattered toy you’ll never get rid of.

You, as vulnerable as the dawn (though everyone thinks you’re as brave as high noon).

You, with the soul that’s older and deeper than the sea.

 

You are beautiful.

 

You are the one we turn to when we need a

Shoulder to cry on

A hand to hold

Or just some fervent praise to make us feel good about ourselves.

 

You are our biggest fan.

 

And while you sometimes get trapped by that voice in your head that says

You fool

You fool

You fool

Why can’t you just for once

Go for the money

Let it slide

Not take it all so personally

(Although, how else a person would take it is a bit of a mystery…)

And why can’t you learn to just

Suit up and show up and shut up?

 

But no.

 

Your feelings are how you know you’re alive.

 

And while the family you were born into may still call you:

 

Sensitive, too sensitive, waaaaaay too sensitive, weird, artsy, melodramatic, a big ol’ drama queen, psychic, unique, odd, old-fashioned, eccentric, misguided, special, tolerant of ambiguity, optimistic, viciously self-critical, expressive, inventive, pollyanna, misunderstood, different, deluded, ambitious, contrary, talkative, awake, gifted, diverse, scary, intense, playful, iconoclastic, independent, freaky, unrealistic or just plain crazy

 

You know better than to expect them to understand you.

 

And you have made your own

Family of friends and orphans and strays and

You would do anything for them

And have, come to think of it.

 

But you don’t keep score like that. Which is a good thing,

Because you would never come out even.

 

You overshare, overcompensate, overthink, overdo, overanalyze, overtalk and

Overwork – a word for which the past tense is: overwrought.

 

You, my beautiful love, are overwrought.

And we don’t want you any other way.

 

For it is you who looks every single homeless person in the eye.

 

You who can recall the name, birthdate and astrological sign of every person we’ve ever dated.

 

You, who rescues the animals,

Sings to the children,

Spots our moment of despair from across the room and rushes in, heedless, to hug and hold us when we never even knew what hit us.

 

But you knew.

 

You may not believe in psychic ability, but it does seem pretty freaking obvious to you pretty much exactly what is going on with pretty much everybody pretty much all of the time.

 

And you can’t believe we can’t see it, too.

 

And all that discernment and intuition and, yes, sensitivity, makes

Going to parties a horror show and

Getting dressed for parties even worse –

And not being invited to parties the very worst thing of all.

 

But remember about your need for solitude.

 

And remember the joy you feel when you lose yourself in your work, your art, your craft.

 

And remember, please, to take good care of your tender self and not watch scary movies like the evening news and not hang around negative-toxic-energy-vampire-people and remember to move your seductive body and

Lift your eyes to the sky because no one knows like you that:

 

All This Has Come To Pass.

 

And while we all wish you wouldn’t drink so much,

We understand why you do.

 

And we are so grateful to you.

 

You are so beautiful.

 

And we know that it is not that

You are over-sensitive,

It’s just that

The rest of us are under-sensitive.

 

 

oh my beloveds…

oh my beloveds…

There is only one thing that ever changed the world: A NEW STORY.
So if you want to change the world, you must begin to tell a new story.
Stop repeating the stories created by the info-advert-tain-u-ment industry.
Instead:
Look closely and notice something remarkable about the world.
Be still.
Listen.
Ask a question you’ve never thought of before.
Tell a new story.
Stop repeating your old stories about yourself and what you are and are not capable of.
Instead:
Look closely at your life and notice something unusual.
Be still. Do not rush to judgment.
Listen.
Ask yourself something about you that no one has ever asked before.
Tell a new story.
Stop rehearsing stories about the future.
Instead:
Look closely and notice that which is the same as it ever was. (#sameasiteverwas)
Be still.
Listen to the rhythm of history as it meets a new beat.
Tell a new story.
I talk to people every day who say,
“I’m not sure what to write/create…”
And I say,
“Of course you don’t.
You haven’t done it yet.”
Luckily, it’s not too late.
And the world is desperate for your story.
Please –
Tell us a new story.
Your Hot Pink Octopus – ?

Your Hot Pink Octopus – ?

OK, look – I didn’t want to be the first one to mention it….
but you’ve got a Hot Pink Octopus
and it’s wrapped all around you.

You can’t get away from her.
You can pry off one arm, but she’ll wrap it somewhere else.
Maybe somewhere that tickles.

You can try to hide from her…..
but you know a 600-lb Hot Pink Octopus can fit through a hole the size of a quarter…
so she follows wherever you go.

She’s been with you forever.

She’s your creativity.
She’s your stories.
She’s the uncanny sense that you have been put on this earth in this
incarnation to

share your words
share your vision
share your voice

She’s the part of you that knows better than you —
and the less you try and manhandle her, the better.

Babe, you were put here to share your octopus.
And when you share her,
and people love her or don’t,
you can know that it’s not You that they love or don’t,

it’s your Hot Pink Octopus.

Your Hot Pink Octopus might even win awards
or make you a fortune
or connect you with other Cephalopods

And together, you can do great things.

Quit fighting her.
Quit trying to ignore her.
Quit pretending like she doesn’t matter,
or that you can only make time for her once everything else gets done,
which never happens.

The world needs your Hot Pink Octopus:
Her shape-shifting wisdom…
Her gift of camouflage…
Her endless curiousity….
Her remarkable ability to adapt and learn…

She’s been on this planet for almost 200 million years.

Let her speak.

 

A Reason to Celebrate

A Reason to Celebrate

I’m going to tell you the truth:

I did not love this book while I was writing it.
I did not love this book while I was editing it.

Mostly because I was so ill with long c0vid that it was hard for me to love anything at all.

But I had faith.

And by the time I was in the booth recording the Audible version, I loved it.

I tell you this to underline this truth:

YOU ARE TERRIBLE JUDGE OF YOUR OWN WORK.

So judging
Stop evaluating.

Start writing.

The world needs your book – more than you even know.

If you would like to share some about your book project with me in a small group (no sales – just wisdom and mutual support) – please find a time here.

What’s the Best Reason to Write a Book?

What’s the Best Reason to Write a Book?