Why Is It So Awful When Everyone Thinks You’re So Wonderful?

Why Is It So Awful When Everyone Thinks You’re So Wonderful?

“I love your work…”

“Wow, your life is so perfect…”

“You changed my life…”

Sounds great, right? All that praise and approval?

Isn’t that just what you’ve always wanted?

So why do you have a horrible, sinking feeling in your stomach?

There are quite a few unexpected thoughts and feelings that can arise when you begin to be a successful public person:

  • “I’m a fraud.”
  • “Everyone thinks my life is perfect and it is SO not perfect – I feel awful.”
  • “Why is being so popular so exhausting?”

Don’t worry – you’re not crazy. You’re just dealing with a very wonderful problem.

Here’s the link to the blog post I created about this topic for the wonderful people over at CreateHype.com:


And here’s the free audio event I recorded about this topic:

I’d love to hear your thoughts….

Life Does Not Move In One Direction

Life Does Not Move In One Direction

first ripe tomatoWe love the story of life as a road. Success is a ladder. Time is ever marching forward.

But we know it’s not true.

We are forever on shifting sands, sliding forward and backward and sideways and diagonally in our thinking, our feeling, our learning and our lives. Time swirls about us endlessly; effortlessly sweeping us back to That Day in the Third Grade…That Picnic by the Lake…That Long and Horrible Night…no, certainly time is the most unreliable of all the unreliables.

If we think of our lives as being linear, we cheat ourselves out of the fullness of our experience.

Plus, it’s that foolish linear thinking that leads to self-immolating thoughts like, “I should be more successful by now” and “Look, that person is more successful than I am.” We know these thoughts are lies, too, but if you only measure by the clock it is all too easy to slip those lies into your pocket and carry them around as part of your belief about yourself.

The more we learn about our art (our love), the less we know.

The longer we live on this earth, the more the years seem to pass in a day.

As our fortunes rise and fall, the more we recognize that money and status are no more accurate a marker of success than a new crop of tomatoes or a big hug from an eight-year old.

Today, challenge yourself to notice the ways in which your life is moving in many looping directions all at once. And how that is good and meet.

photo: “first tomato of spring” from The G-tastic 7’s photostream on flickr used by Creative Commons license